Porn stars… They are both revered and detested in today’s pop culture. It seems to me, that very few people are indifferent about them. Whichever camp you fall into--love ‘em or hate ‘em… Porn stars rarely seem to be viewed as normal people. It’s like, if you have sex for money, either you’re some cracked out junkee, or you’re devoid of normal human emotions. Porn stars are just like the rest of us. How do I know? Weeeell… I used to bartend at a strip club in Pittsburgh. We had national acts come to perform every weekend, and yes, many of them were porn stars. I actually had the privilege of getting to know some of them personally, and let me tell you… They are just like the rest of us. Okay, maybe not just like the rest of us… but porn stars are people too. And just like the rest of us, they are each motivated by different things. Love, money, the desire to be accepted, etc. Why should they be judged any differently because they’ve made a very personal decision about their body? It’s my opinion that they shouldn’t. And why should they be viewed as incapable of love? They may love differently, but since when is being different a crime? Oh wait… since forever. Duh. But it shouldn’t be. As a feminist, I feel that women should all have the right to choose what they want to do with their lives… whether it be a stay at home mom, or a porn star.
What does this all have to do with my book Alexxxa? Well, I’m tired of seeing this judgmental attitude portrayed in so many romance novels. To further explain I’ll share with you my author’s note from Alexxxa:
Some of you may be wondering why I wrote a romance novel with a heroine that’s a porn star. The answer is simple: For me, writing is an opportunity to not only expel my inner demons, but to maybe, hopefully, get some people to think about things—to start asking questions. Like why, in romance novels, is it okay for men to have sex with tons of women and in no way will this affect the possibility of him finding love in the future? But if a woman has a lot of sex then she’s a slut and incapable of love. This notion is an affront to my feminist sensibilities. A woman should be free to make whatever decisions she wants for herself and her body. That idea should be reflected in romance novels. So this book is my way of saying that the ‘slut shaming’ must stop. Everyone deserves a chance at love, and they’ll get it in my books. In closing: Read and do whatever you wish, but never try to make other people feel bad about their choices just because they aren’t yours. Feminism is about having the right to choose. Your mind, your body… your choice.
In closing, I know that there will always be judgmental A-holes out there in this world. Me writing a romance with a porn star as the heroine isn’t going to magically fix that problem either. Buuut… myself and other like-minded authors can at least not contribute to the problem. The slut shaming cycle must stop, and it will in my books. Women should love and support each other, and stop being each other’s enemies. All people deserve a chance at love, at least I thing so. ☺
Author: D.T. Dyllin
Genre: Adult Contemporary Romance
Publisher: Tik Tok Press
Cover artist: Lindsay Tiry
Release Date: July 20, 2014
About the AuthorD.T. Dyllin is a Bestselling Romance Author who writes in both New Adult and Adult genres. She is a member of the RWA (Romance Writers of America) and also her local chapter, the MCRW (Music City Romance Writers).
D.T. was born and raised in Pittsburgh, Pennsylvania. (Black & Gold for life, baby!) She now lives in Nashville, Tennessee with her husband and two spoiled GSDs.